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Post by charlie on Sept 19, 2008 17:51:05 GMT
One thing I forgot to mention about the girl singer was her annoying habit of singing along with me, in unison, on my songs...like she thought I needed help to sing my songs. One song in particular "I just called to say I love you" by Stevie Wonder. Now, I'm not the greatest male vocalist on the planet, but I can hold my own, and especially on that tune. Because she likes that tune, she must have felt she had a right to sing with me and over me. One night I just quit singing the lyrics and closed the laptop while the sequence continued playing. I know that was unprofessional but I couldn't help it. Not harmony...not in the background, but over me as if to say I can sing this song better than you. I never do that to her. I don't show her that kind of disrespect. But man! Isn't that annoying when that happens. I felt we sounded like a bunch of drunks trying to scream over one another in a karoake free-for-all contest. It was embarassing. One good thing, though, is my limited time I will continue playing with her. I don't mean to aire my dirty laundry about my musical situation, but if anyone would know what I'm talking about...it would be you guys on this forum.
Charlie
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Post by shyamwestwind on Sept 19, 2008 20:28:40 GMT
I sure can sympathise with you Charlie - you should have broken this "partnership" a long time ago. Good riddance, Charlie !!!. Now, dont let these thoughts burn you - she definitely isn't worth thinking about, so just enjoy your self and live it up. ALL THE BEST, once again, Charlie
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Post by charlie on Sept 19, 2008 20:39:58 GMT
Thanks Shyam, that's exactly what I'm going to do. I guess dissolving a partnership is like dissolving a marriage of sorts. There will be lingering issues and feelings, but I know in my heart of hearts moving on is best for me. This will be the last post I make about her and the "situation" as you are quite right....good ridance!
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Post by rosybud1956 on Sept 20, 2008 1:20:48 GMT
Hi Charlie. I sure can empathise with you on this matter. I had a friend ask me to help her out with a 'Christmas in July'gig as she doesn't have enough material of her own and also no equipment for gigging. That very same thing happened to me and I felt exactly as you did. I could hear members of the audience saying, 'Oh no. Wish she'd shut up.' I have decided I will only take one mike along if I'm asked to anything like this again.. It was at a retirement village. The residents loved the rock n roll so that was good. (For people curious about Christmas in July. In Australia we have a very hot December Christmas so someone came up with the July idea so we can have a taste of a cold Christmas.)
Another time I was asked to a 'Golden Oldies' morning, where the same friend comperes. It's a morning to get people who live alone out of the house and everyone who entertains does so for free. Again she sang over me with her mike. Yes one does feel like a novice needing some assistance. Away from music she and I are very good friends. She has been exceptional with her support since my health has been so challenging. It is so hard trying to be tactful sometimes; moreso when the offending party is a friend, I think. In your case,
Charlie, I think I would have recorded it and let her hear just how unprofessional it sounds. I did comment to my friend and she hadn't even realised what she was doing. Go it solo mate and never look back!!!!!!!!!!! Cheers Lyn
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Post by weegeo on Sept 20, 2008 14:57:14 GMT
Hi again Charlie i think you should cut the cord and let her go i haven`t seen a saving mention in any of your posts so if it was me i`d say to her `don`t let the door catch your backside on the way out`
weegeo
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Post by steveb on Sept 22, 2008 7:46:58 GMT
Very annoying Charlie,
However I would have had to say something because it is not something that I could let continue. If it doesn't sound or feel right, it's not worth doing.
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Post by dingadong04 on Sept 28, 2008 1:04:36 GMT
Maybe this is an ongoing thread ..but can i ask a wee question .. are yis be havin a laugh?  ??.. i have never heard so much egotism in such a small thread.. ..Quote.." One thing I forgot to mention about the girl singer was her annoying habit of singing along with me, in unison, on my songs...like she thought I needed help to sing my songs" ..Charlie this is not your song it is and always will be a Stevie Wonder song .. you had no part whatsoever in writing or producing this song ITS NOT YOURS .. next qoute .. "Hi Charlie. I sure can empathise with you on this matter. I had a friend ask me to help her out " .. to me that should have finished there full stop.. I had a friend She was great when i needed her ..but by jasus her singing is awful .. i love a debate a bit of banter but on this one yis have really lost the plot.. i have said before on midimart we did not struggle/write / slog/or promote any song that we play/sing ..we just copy what someone else made famous enough for us to repeat and then we get paid ..so be greatful and enjoy ,,along with your friends |
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Post by charlie on Oct 2, 2008 21:48:54 GMT
Yes, dingadong04..I can see how you might see this thread as trifle. When I wrote it I was really discouraged and disheartened by the unfortunate circumstances that I was going through. Perhaps, if you could read my other thread "Should I stay or should I go?" and then maybe you'll have a better understanding of why I wrote this thread. I apologize to all midi-mart members whom I may have offended with this thread. I did not want to air out my "dirty laundry" so to speak..about that situation. And for the issue of the song belonging to Stevie Wonder...I am well aware that he wrote and produced that song. All I was saying in this thread was that if I was the one to sing this song in our duo, then why couldn't I without having to compete to do so. Competition is great...and the best vocalist should win...but there's a time and place for that...and it is my humble opinion that it doesn't need to happen in front of an audience, especially if they're not told a competition was in progress. Hey, but that's just me. And egotism, well, if that was what you thought when you read this thread, then I'm sorry.
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Post by weegeo on Oct 2, 2008 22:28:42 GMT
Hey there Charlie, you have no need to apologise at all, we on this forum are here to help each other and offer advice as when we`re asked. I personally don`t think your thread is trifling if it`s important to you then it`s important to us. I have been in the same situation that you have been with regards to vocals and others singing over the top of me, i probably handled it differently i told the guy to `wind his neck in i was singing the song` lol So please don`t feel down about this at all
Regards
weegeo
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Post by thingyy on Oct 3, 2008 0:27:39 GMT
Easy fix, when the singing starts in unison turn his/her mike off so they get the message.
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Post by dingadong04 on Oct 3, 2008 12:40:10 GMT
Hi ya Charlie as weegeo rightly says there is no need to apologize no offense was taken or caused and on my behalf none was meant , whether we agree /disagree we all have our opinions and that is the beauty and strength of this wee forum, and its members.
I have done as you asked and read up on your other thread and while it is annoying when people let you down , what i have read your friend and partner of 7 years was going through a bad time , marriage on the rocks maybe she was being let down by her husband and maybe playing and putting on a happy face for the public was not something she could handle , It is sad that after 7 years that it reached the point it did .Maybe she could have done things different maybe you should have spoke up sooner ..hindsight is agreat thing . But i have to say , she must be able to hold her own as well and yous must have been good together if not why spend 7 years together ..that is a very long time to spend with someone and then suddenly , because she makes one mistake , shes no good .. ta finish Charlie you've got your confidence back ye got more money for playing solo just need to ask what happened the girl ?
all the best for nigh
cubb
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Post by Tubbs on Oct 3, 2008 16:37:01 GMT
As the lads have said Charlie their is no need to apologise for anything...a problem shared is a problem halved and where better to share it than among your own people here.  |
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Post by charlie on Oct 4, 2008 14:12:13 GMT
Hey thanks guys...like I said I really didn't want to burden the forum with my problems. I just needed a place to vent...to get it off my chest. Cubb, as far as the girl singer is concerned, I did give her another chance...given the circumstances she was going through...and well...she took off again to Hawaii, never called me, and took money due me with her. Suffice it to say...I'm over it.
On a more positive and optimistic note, I have continued playing at the Holiday Inn as a solo...and the audience is diggin' it. Of course, they ask where the girl singer is...and I just smile and say she's on an extended vacation. I have moved on....
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Post by weegeo on Oct 4, 2008 15:41:29 GMT
good on you now just bury the experience
weegeo
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Post by dingadong04 on Oct 4, 2008 16:58:40 GMT
Fair play Charlie it,s not a burden ta air yer troubles/ veiws..etc ,those that are interested will reply so fair play for sharing ..nigh just get on with it .. in all yer gigs all the best
ps.. are ya luckin a singer ;;lol
cubb
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??.. i have never heard so much egotism in such a small thread..
